The Power Of Godly Friendships
The Power of Godly Friendships
Understanding Ecclesiastes
Ecclesiastes is a wisdom book, traditionally believed to be authored by King Solomon. It opens with the stark declaration, “Meaningless, meaningless, everything is utterly meaningless.” The Hebrew word for “meaningless” is “hevel,” which means “vapor” or “breath.” This word appears 38 times, emphasizing that life is temporary and unpredictable. The pursuit of worldly status, wealth, and possessions is ultimately like chasing the wind—impossible to grasp. Yet, amid this apparent despair, the author offers a solution: embracing the wisdom and fear of God.
In Ecclesiastes 4:7-12 (NLT), we are reminded that “Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed… A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” This passage highlights the importance of relationships and the strength we find in community.
The Danger of Isolation
You were not created to live alone. Researchers from Duke University and the University of Arizona found that 50% of the people they interviewed had no one outside their family they could confide in. When we isolate ourselves, we risk becoming socially unaware, irrelevant, and stagnant.
Genesis 2:18 (NIV) says, “It is not good for the man to be alone.” Relationships are the heartbeat of the local church. From hanging out together to learning about God’s word, being real with one another, celebrating victories, and serving together—these are the ties that bind us.
- Godly Friendships Help Us Succeed
Ecclesiastes 4:9 reminds us that “Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed.” We’re not saying you aren’t successful on your own, but being connected with other men and women of faith will propel you further in all God has called you to be. Whether as a parent, a spouse, a student, or a leader, Godly friendships provide encouragement, accountability, and a place to belong.
I’ve had numerous mentors and friends who have shaped me to be all that God has called me to be. We all need people who speak into our lives and encourage us. As the saying goes, “If you want to go fast, go alone; if you want to go far, go together.”
- Godly Friendships Help Us Survive
Ecclesiastes 4:10-11 (NLT) states, “If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.” During life’s cold seasons, we need the warmth of our friends. While community can be found in various places—work, sports teams, school—the lens through which our friends see the world matters. Godly friendships bring the power of God and remind us that our strength comes not from self-reliance but from reliance on Him.
Romans 12:15 (NIV) urges us to “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” And Galatians 6:2 (NIV) calls us to “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” Life will inevitably knock us down, but in community, there’s always someone to help us back up.
- Godly Friendships Help Us Stand
Ecclesiastes 4:12 (NLT) notes, “A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer.” We all need encouragement, accountability, and people who help us see our blind spots. Proverbs 27:17 (NIV) says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”
We see this relational component even in the Godhead: the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit—distinct yet unified. This divine relationship models the importance of working together, supporting each other, and being in community.
Closing Thoughts
God created us for community. Whether you’re naturally outgoing or a bit more reserved, there’s a place for you to connect and thrive. Let’s commit to building godly friendships that help us succeed, survive, and stand firm in faith. Remember, we are stronger together!
***This blog post was adapted from a sermon preached by Pastor Jason Kimbrow at Legacy Church. Click the “Watch Sermon” button below to view the sermon in its entirety.***